Just say no and you get up and you walk away because thats the ultimate leverage. As long as theyre still getting that benefit, as long as theyre feeling good, thats all that matters. I think oftentimes we get in that web of like, well, I gave this, I better get that. 4 0 obj And Im sitting there in my chair or wherever and thinking about it. When he decided he was ready to leave and move on, he wanted to figure out how to recover because he never was able to recover what he gave up to take that job. You could write on a piece of paper and tear up the pieces, and actually put them in an order. But if someone wants a lecture, theyve got my 90-day program on top of that. All I know is that we as humans, dont downshift easily. Theres always like, Ive got to meet that standard. Its what you think about and what you focus on manifest into your life. I love birds of prey. Im going to do my best to give a short answer because its actually a long answer. Theres a lot going on. So, I love that. It was featured in Forbes, in an article. I can go five minutes a day. So yeah, I love that. I would hope that its really hitting a note because it is in fact keeping its promise of addressing, why we get excited about this stuff; we actually do it, it actually starts to work, and we still stop it. Trust me. Im unhappy about that. Thats a very simple little process. I love that because I started Andrews Gravity of the Cosmos Program. The law of attraction can help you address that. Hes making more than what he would have likely been making even if hed stayed in the old job from before because he had that change in his thinking. Interesting. 02:15 In his book, Andrew addresses why people get excited about the law of attraction and begin to get results but still quit. They know whether they were thinking about the actual thing or not is because if theyre thinking about that promotion with frustration, impatience, uncertainty, doubt, and fear thats the lack of the promotion, not the promotion. I feel things. In this episode, Andrew Kaplan joins Christine McKay to explain how the Law of Attraction works and how you can do it properly to bring you the success you have always dreamt of. It snowballs and keeps going on and on. The Law of Attraction like you've never heard it before! Youre like, wow, Ive got a lot in my life. I can do that again. That matters. But I mean, I like to pour all my energy into this. Thank you for having me and let me say that the feeling is more than mutual. You need to agree with the terms to proceed, 253 N. San Gabriel Blvd., Unit B, Pasadena, CA 91107, United States, Teaching Sales Techniques Through Books featuring Brandon Bornancin, Getting New Clients with a Book featuring Chris Miles. Simply being grateful for your car, your paycheck, and the food that youre eating will indirectly lead to that relationship that youve wanted, that you can now be grateful for as well. Youre trying to give me this book, and its got all these methods. There are a lot. Yeah. It gives you room for that curiosity. Yeah. All of those things get jumbled together. I remember a few years back, I took on a consultant myself, because even consultants should have consultants. He changed how he saw the value that he contributed as well as what was possible. Well said. Now the ego, as I define it, only has one job in this world, and thats to keep you alive. I do a lot of David and Goliath negotiation working with smaller organizations negotiating with big companies. Im grateful for the journey so far. There is a social currency. Its called a time-lapse method. If the outcome is not what I want, but Im still safe, is it that bad? I appreciate you so much. Gravity of the Cosmos: Advanced Level 90-Day Guided Program ($2,997 Value) Feeding The Ego A Steak-Flavored Salad: 6-Week Training Course For Managing Your Fears and Doubts ($497 Value) The Ultimate Abundance Meditation Set: Guided Audio Sessions in Money, Relationships, and Health ($110 Value) I dont need to sweat about it. That was off the strength that the presentation I gave at the event, which was achieved off the strength of the book. So anytime somebody that, you immediately have credibility in their eyes. Andrew is the author ofThe Last Law of Attraction Book Youll Ever Need to Read, a number one bestselling book in its category that Forbes has recognized as one of the 21 books to read in 2021. As a lot of youve heard me say before, the hardest part of any negotiation is the negotiation we have between our ears. Five present things in the current deal that youre in, and then five things about your upcoming thing that youd like. How come they start to get results? Which means, I know if they get the program and they use it and they feel better, just as a social creature, this is a selfish thing that I noticed about myself, they are going to attribute some of their good feeling towards me. Yeah, look. What can you do better than that? We have a conscious, and we have a subconscious and in the middle, weve got that ego, which is stronger than the conscious mind, but nothing compared to the subconscious. Theres a reason why many billionaires have been bankrupt, but theyre still billionaires because theyve accomplished it once. You can do whatever you want. You have more about what you want. But Id like to get your viewpoint on that. And were going to jumble up this list now. When you acknowledge that its about the relationship, let that door open, and all the possibilities are there, now you just got to be able to think about what it is that you want out of those possibilities. I appreciate that. It sounds like were definitely in agreement. Its already working.. I write the 15 things in any order, and this is what Im using on a daily basis to remember those things. And when you do that, depending on your beliefs, youre feeding thoughts to your subconscious mind, or youre extending that vibration out to the universe, or maybe a combination, which is what I believe because its all connected anyway. And The Secret gets a bad rap. That is a very, very simple methodology. Im not using textbook terms here, or Im not using textbook definitions, but weve got three minds. I think you could take a day off now. She was going through a nasty divorce, nasty separation. If someone says that their back hurts, I dont get a commission by saying, Hey, check out DDP yoga. Because its done great stuff for me, and I know it goes well. If you were thinking in a negative way, they read that in you immediately, and then they respond in kind. I feel like the value Im bringing here is not recognized and maybe Im not recognizing it. I think youve given great value today. Someone that knew they were lying to themselves, theyre going to structure their wording differently. Were talking gratitude, exercises, visualization, and simple things. First of all, whether its my book or anyone elses book, thank you for acknowledging it because thats where the gift is in it for you. Weve got a conscious mind. We dont want something thats going to blow up anyway in our faces a month later. Your email address will not be published. by Andrew Kap. Andrew Kap is an experienced entrepreneur and the #1 best-selling author of the book, The Last Law of Attraction Book You'll Ever Need To Read. What about your heart thats been beating in your chest every single second of every single day since before the day we were born? Not only that its been there you every single day, but its pumping blood, nutrients, and oxygen to all these other parts of your body, which are also serving you. xYn5?OMdzP@J RT~PT Not because youre trying to trick other people, but because youre trying to quarterback your focus because you want to invite more of those things. There are thousands of books in this space, really, I think. Christine, I wanted to further you here. Its that ability when you have that quiet confidence and comfort in who you are, you are able to think more creatively about how to divide that egg. You said that when youre talking about win-win. Now Ive got my feet to the fire that I better deliver in that way. They might be stuck paying wanting attacks, and they might be stuck in scarcity thinking. Are you a consultant in this way? And it just naturally makes you as the referrer feel better. I was checking today; its the number one bestseller today. Who better to have than the man who has the number one best-selling book in this category on the market? We were driving one weekend and I was like, She saw every Toyota RAV4 on the road. Not that shes ever noticed one ever before but because shes thinking about buying one, thats all she sees. Not to kill your calendar, Christine, but get Christine on your team. And by the way, really quick. The person you recommend it to is not going to regret it. I learned a ton from Eben Pagan called Wanting Attacks, where sometimes you want something so badly that youre going to act in contradiction to your interest because you think that you need that thing, which is a fancy way of saying scarcity thinking. They could have shown up as a completely different person or maybe they showed up exactly as it is supposed to. Youre going to look good here. I didnt come up with this term. I texted you because I was like, Oh my god. I felt that result came out of gratitude because I was able to think of different ways to ask questions of each of them that put them in different mindsets, place, and position so they could act in a way that was consistent with what they were trying to attract and not based on scarcity, because they had grandkids and all that stuff. Your programs are amazing. We start telling ourselves, This is what I want. We start to see it. % Shes not a numbers person, she was freaking out, she thought that he was trying to screw her. Listen to this informative Publish. Theres no rules to this. Well, one of the reasons that I ask is, most authors are not going to have the kind of success that, after a year and a half, youve sold almost a hundred thousand copies, with 1,600 reviews. I want to have you talk a little bit about what gratitude and practicing gratitude means to you. I want to go back to, are you speaking it to being by gritting your teeth with fear, uncertainty, and doubt, or have you got yourself enough feeling good about the situation that thought naturally occurs to you and you express it verbally when its already there? Youre taking this thing and youre applying it to negotiation, even though you dont have to. One of the things that Blair Dunkley talks about is safety versus comfort. Certainly, Im not saying is of yours. And I do want to speak to what you said, because you articulated better than me about titles and covers. And by the way, when youre serving people, this is something thats very easy to do. And sometimes working till 4:00 AM and really grinding it out. Im projecting now. My long-winded answer is this is about understanding are you engaging in a way with enthusiasm and confidence and feeling good or are you frustrated? So, I think a huge part is in having a lot of enthusiasm, a lot to the book itself. And then everything becomes a much more relaxed, and thereby, in my opinion, much more successful experience. Its all about finding what works for you that you enjoy individually and taking it that way. I knew that even then, in that state of motivation, that it was not sustainable. Ill show them how its expressed in the book and they can see how easy it is to either do something exactly step-by-step or make it your own, which I love. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Youve got your brilliance and theyve got theirs. He took a job with his dream company but he took a massive pay cut. Maybe the first thing in the list is a present, followed by a past, followed by another past, followed by a future. This title is a bold promise. All of a sudden, its not in their awareness anymore and they are not inviting it there. Its such an important distinction for people. My team saw you and theyve been pestering me. I appreciate the two people who brought us together and who introduced us. Its clear what limited vision I have into your world. But thats the thing that knows your fears, uncertainties, and doubts. Ive got social media and stuff but for the most part, I usually point people towards that, because these days, you cant hire me for marketing consulting anymore. I dont want to create confusion. And it depends on the persons personality, which is why I put a number of methods in the book, because I understand any one method on its own is enough as long as the person enjoys the method. There might be someone out there that wants to be rich and famous right now. By the time youre on negotiation ten, not only did all those other deals in and of themselves work out well for you, but youre such a higher leverage point of power with who you are and how you show up in the world. I thought they can do it. And this is a song. And now that I know what this is, how do I provide that for them in a way that they will never forget, in a way that under promised and over delivered? Hmm. Ill do whatever I can do to get out of my own way. In my philosophy, and people who have read this before have read me say this, but for those who havent, my core philosophy on negotiation is, Negotiation is a conversation about a relationship and you cannot win a relationship. Even if you are dissolving a relationship, it is still a conversation about a relationship and how you look back in the future and on that moment. So it is. It has been an absolute pleasure to have you on the show. by Andrew Kap ( 2,497 ) $3.99 Why The Law of Attraction Hasn't Given You the Life of Your Dreams Yet .And What To FINALLY Do About it Once and For All To Easily Manifest Your Desires Faster Than You Ever Thought Possible. It better stand out. Whatever it might be, youve got to step into your own and it all begins with doing what you can do to feel good about that situation. << /Length 5 0 R /Filter /FlateDecode >> Were not beating up the other person, youre owning your own power but also it dictates or governs your decisions on other things in your business. Im seeing it in my business, too. Yeah. Yeah. Its got two letters in it, an N and an O, at least in English, but its a short word in every language. Some people like that. So, Im about to enter the monetization state of that and see where that takes me. We are reaching for the positive, where youre seeing the positive, and youre being more resourceful. He never made it back up again. So as long as you feel good about anything, youre inviting good in everything. They do the method to get the result. It is what it is.. How to Structure Your Nonfiction Book, How to Write a Book Chapter That Captivates Readers (The Open Loop Process), How to Become a Published Author: Your Complete Guide to Every Publishing Path, How Do Book Royalties Work? That is literally the title. The book was featured in USA Today, in an article. Youre standing up straight or sitting up straighter. Love the things you shared. It is a book that has been sold to tens of thousands, perhaps hundreds of thousands, of people with over 1,600 four and five-star reviews, which is just fantastic. Sounds like thats a great way to do it. Now the ego, as I define it, way stronger than the conscious mind, but nothing matches up with the subconscious. Its such a weird, esoteric, and intangible thing, but the fact that you show up in a unique way, which affects how the other person shows up. People need to go read that and check out your YouTube channel as well. That is literally the title. Sometimes the investment that you make is going to be very obvious when you get it back. Heres the thing that I love about it. Those precedents that work best for you in your negotiation, youre going to make those continue to happen. These are things that we gloss over when were under stress. Youre not wrong. Even now, based on the conversation we had when I interviewed you, I still remember things that you told me that helped me make better decisions. There are more confidence and certainty. And theyre going to remember me for it. And maybe the community could communicate the missions better, maybe they couldnt. You have your magic and they have theirs. Theres something to the cadence and the structure of your wording and the tonality of your voice when thats in the mix that people can feel on the other end. When you can do that, people will talk about you. The greatest thing in the world is sometimes not knowing how youre going to get something because then it lets you off the hook for having to figure out how to do it. Blackwater Skies Astronomy & Astro-imaging from East of the Meridian Main Menu. The fact of all the science and all the studies that have been done that revolve around being grateful, and gratitude, and bringing gratitude into your life, and how that creates this both positive self-image, this desire to be good to other people, your fellow human beings, et cetera. How are you helping people? What are the questions I can ask to have a better awareness so they can have a better real result? Im walking around and Im noticing every little thing in nature, like this little, teeny, tiny ant that crossed in front of me. Some people might think that sounds like woo-woo, but because of your book and because of the programs that Ive taken that you offer, Im seeing it. In the end, we all want this to be a sustainable deal. The fact that you can notice and acknowledge it is what fuels it and reinforces it. They were still going to have to hear about each other at a minimum. So, hes had a front row seat to me writing the book, publishing the book, all the five-star reviews piling in, all the sales piling in, all the emails, all this stuff. I know the importance of writing a book, obviously, its what my business is. You want to serve them also. You can always add the other things in later. You have so much resourcefulness within you and you access that. And your ego is like, Hey, Rob. Effective negotiation is about how do I make that egg still stay an egg, but divided up into three parts without destroying a part of it or changing its properties? I can do ten minutes a day. Im going to focus on harmony. Regardless of what form that harmony takes, you will be surprised to see not only how that other person shows up, but how you show up. She knows her stuff. Now, is that the one that you use or is that a primary one for you, personally? Thats a cool way to think about it. Theyd write everything in the present tense, and then they jumble up the order of that list. But if you want to talk to me, here are my rates and well do this. But I had a really bad year in 2008 that snapped me out of things and made me realize that all I really need to be is consistent with this. It doesnt have to be very expensive. Ill teach one of my favorite methods from the book. Andrew learned about the Law of attraction in 2004 and four years later he had an epiphany about it. It saves us $100 a month to be grandfathered in on that.. It keeps you stuck in place. The pie is bigger than what you think it is. This win-win and this win-lose thing ends up becoming, Ive got a whole pie. If someone wants to work with me individually, honestly, I dont have my business set up for it. Its definitely a ripple effect. 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